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The UnCommon Good

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My Creativity Creed

Creativity. It used to seem so ambiguous to me. Reserved for the people that were born with the knack for brainstorming. Check out this Creed that has revolutionized the way I practice the art of creativity.

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30x30: 30 Things I Want to Be About In My 30's

I'd highly recommend putting together a list of the things you want to be about--an intentional living list. Keep the vision in front of you. Set daily goals to achieve the bigger picture. Re-adjust when necessary.

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My Family's Adoption Story

Adoption is living out what God's done for us. Come join my family. Sight unseen. Just as you are. I've chosen to love you forever and then some.

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Finding Your Purpose

What is my purpose? What should I do with my life? As I work with college students, I find myself in these conversations often. And as I get older, I realize it's being re-defined, re-shaped and sometimes re-rooted.

Showing posts with label Mentoring. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mentoring. Show all posts

4.05.2011

Anything Can Happen Child, Anything Can Be

Last summer, after the little girl I mentor came to Day Camp, she called me on Saturday and said, "Apurul, when I come to camp on Monday, will I need to bring my back-a-pack?"

It broke my heart to tell her that she only comes once.  Because she knows that I'm at camp every single week of the summer.   I can only give "my kids" one awesome week of summer, but I try to give them tons of quality time the rest of the year.  And since they're on Spring Break, I've been cramming.

Last week, we took a girls only trip to see Tangled.
0_201103311808_329Rapunzel: I've been looking out of a window for eighteen years, dreaming about what I might feel like when those lights rise in the sky. What if it's not everything I dreamed it would be?
Flynn Rider: It will be.
Rapunzel: And what if it is? What do I do then?
Flynn Rider: Well,that's the good part I guess. You get to go find a new dream.

How do I help these kids dream?  How do I share the keys to unlock a world beyond their neighborhood?  How do I instill not only one dream, but many?

Often, my dreams have been fed by great books.  A while ago, I decided that I would give "my kids" a love for bookstores.  Today, we tried a new one.  I wish you could have seen them squealing as they discovered Schuler Books in Grand Rapids.

The three of us picked a worn couch for silent reading.  I think it's a beautiful scene.
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They loved watching ME read.  And I loved telling them about how fun it is to read a 700 page book that you never want to put down (The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand- read it?). They adore me, and it's so important that they get to see this side of me.

We also sat like grown-ups in the coffee shop and read the original version of Rapunzel.  You know, because we like to compare and contrast literature to film.
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“Listen to the mustn'ts, child.
Listen to the don'ts. 
Listen to the shouldn'ts, 
the impossibles, 
the won'ts.
Listen to the never haves, 
then listen close to me... 
Anything can happen, child. 
Anything can be.” 
-Shel Silverstein

3.09.2011

Why I Came Home From School Crying Today

I'm not a crier.  So I wasn't prepared to sit in a second grade classroom today and have tears well up in my eyes.

I showed up to mentor during my lunch hour with much excitement as always.  When the teacher asked me to stay in the classroom, I was pumped.  Because, let's be honest, it makes my day to have kids huddled around me like they want my autograph (I handed out camp post cards instead).

But then, the teaching happened.  It was about alliteration, metaphors, similes, and "omomatopoeias" (yes, it was spelled wrong on a GRPS worksheet).   And the lesson was taught to second graders (most of whom are English as a second language learners) from a 3-ring binder.  So the tears welled up.  I had my first tragic, real life glimpse of our 50% graduation rate in GRPS. 

These are the kids I love.  They deserve so much more than this.  It's NOT FAIR.

I came home and legitimately cried.  Full out, kind of crumbled for the state of our education system.  I'm having a hard time getting over it.

Maybe you don't know.  Maybe you haven't experienced what it's like in some of our schools.  You need to be aware.  We all need to work together on this.  Please watch David Guggenheim talk about why he made the movie, "Waiting for Superman" and why it's not enough to "take care of my kids and move on"...

Oh, and you should DEFINITELY watch the movie.  It's my plea to the world.

3.04.2011

My Future Career: A Professional Field Tripper?

I've always envisioned myself working forever.  Until death.  If you have spent 5 minutes with me, you know I have big goals and dreams for helping children.

But, I'm starting to see the appeal of being a stay-at-home mom.  Because I would print those free business cards and hand them to every teacher.  My title would be, "field-tripper."  

I had a day off last week, so I got to go on a field trip!!!  It was with the litle girl I mentor and her 2nd grade class.  Now, I'm no stranger to the class or the neighborhood.  I'm definitely the only white girl that shows up at the park.  And they stare.  I think it's because they wonder what color my hair really is.  So do I, kids, so do I.

On the bus, I felt one of the boys in the seat behind me reach over and touch my hair.  I looked back to VERY curious eyes.

"What are your eyes?" he asked.

Pause from me. (Because honestly, I really don't know how to characterize their color).

"Baby Brown,"  he said with confidence.  There you have it.  Makes perfect sense.  I'm claiming it as my color.  Second grade genius.

The rest was magical.  Forever captured by my camera.  The kids LOVE having someone take their picture.  Here are a few of the little girl I mentor at the Grand Rapids Children's Museum. 
 
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And here are my qualifications for being a professional field-tripper:
  1. Within 30 seconds, I knew all 7 kids in my group by name (and never forgot them)
  2. I played along at the dentist, the bank, the post office, the puppet show, etc.  And of course, created memorable learning experiences along the way.  That's what we do, right SpringHill?
  3. Only 3 of my 7 kids got lost.  And it was only for 5 minutes.  At the end.  When everyone was trying to get on the bus.  No big deal. 
I got invited back on today's field trip.  That's right.  They had one last week and this week.  I can't go, of course, because I'm a working woman.  But I'm really hoping to have some time off on St. Patrick's day.  At the Valentine's party I got to hand out bingo chips!  I'm really getting into this "Room Mom" gig.:)

11.19.2010

Go Ahead and Bring Your Props to the Wedding

In order to kick off the keepin' it real posts, I thought I'd share some recent photos. My dad got re-married a week ago and the wedding was very nice. But, of course, it's always a little awkward when you are meeting your new step-family for the first time at the wedding. In front of a hundred other people. I loved my brothers' approach- they never thought about being anyone but their authentic, crazy selves. They teach me so much about living and loving. I do adore this picture of the three of us, but what if we only had this kind of picture to remember the night? The one of my brothers with their props completely shows off their personalities. Much more than anything posed. Love them.
And back in Grand Rapids, I continue to spend a lot of my free time with the little girl I mentor. And her brothers. And neighbors. And cousins (who are mostly the neighbors, too). We took our own family picture at our Fall Family Luncheon a few weeks ago. Let's just recognize how hard it is to get all kids to smile authentically at the same time. So, never to be defeated by an unsmiling child, I started taking "goofy" pictures. Guess what? We laughed harder than ever. And I think we captured the heart of what it's like to spend time in relationship with a child. Love them.So, friends, bring a prop to a wedding or put a turkey craft on your head and pose with a kid you love. Those are the memories I want.

P.S. The new step-family is totally cool and nice. I'm not just saying that. Keepin' it real here, folks. Very thankful for that.

9.20.2010

Last Year I Didn't Know How to Spell Mentor, This Year I Are One

Everyone should be a mentor.


If you're not a mentor, then you miss out on things like the following voicemail:

"Hello, Apurul, can we come to your house to eat the pancakes?"

Resulting in nights like this:
Best dinner party I've had.

Every dinner party should end with a creative experience. Ours was painting pottery.
I loved how a man at church said it last week- "last year I didn't know how to spell mentor, this year I are one." Anyone can do this. And you should. It's amazing to love on kids that aren't yours. Especially kids that don't often have experiences outside of their neighborhood. And need an adult to be their champion. All you need is a willing heart and pancake mix.

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But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children.”

6.26.2010

Burton Kids to Day Camp

We're serving over 4,000 kids this summer at SpringHill Day Camps. But I'm most excited about the 90 kids coming THIS WEEK from Burton Elementary School. These are MY KIDS.
This is the little girl at Burton that I have the privilege of mentoring. She's been calling me often since school ended. And all she wants to talk about is what we are going to do together at camp! I can't wait for THIS WEEK!

11.12.2009

Los Abrigos (The Coats)

Tonight, I got to hand out coats that Mars Hill Bible Church collected for the families of Burton Elementary School. Of course, I came with a camera in hand to capture what it looks like to have the gospel lived out in Grand Rapids, MI. The last photo is of me with the little girl I mentor. She's fully stocked with pink gear for the winter- so cute!
Thanks to those of you that donated your winter gear, bought brand new coats for these kids, and worked so hard to make it all happen! You are a blessing!
All the believers were united in heart and mind. And they felt that what they owned was not their own, so they shared everything they had. The apostles testified powerfully to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and God’s great blessing was upon them all. There were no needy people among them, because those who owned land or houses would sell them and bring the money to the apostles to give to those in need. Acts 4: 32-25

11.10.2009

Monkey Bars and Popcorn Necklaces

I'm a big fan of putting all else aside to PLAY with kids. My mom is over 55 and still plays on the playground with her kids at school. She's been a great example of how to really connect with a child. How awesome is it that my whole job is about teaching a team to connect with children. In fact, I'm on the docket to present on that subject on Saturday at this conference: Think BIG!

Just so you know I'm "living it out" in real life, let me introduce you to the new little girl I am mentoring this year. (sorry for picture quality- taken by my blackberry)
She's in first grade and loves games and writing. This past weekend, we got the chance to have a great Mexican lunch together and then she asked me if I would go play on the playground with her. We connected more in that hour and a half of playing than we have at all of our mentoring sessions. There is something so cool about teaching a little girl how to go one bar further on the monkey bars. We even skipped around the track while holding hands and singing. Dreamy.

Last week, we read a book about popcorn. In it, they made a popcorn necklace- she had never seen one before and LOVED the idea. So, guess what we did at mentoring today? :)

I know a lot of mentors are a little intimidated by their hour with kids. The trick to making it the most wonderful hour of your week- let the child lead! Child-centered play is central to building cognition and self-recognition. Here's a story that NPR did on the subject: Old Fashioned Play Builds Serious Skills. How can you help a child play today?

10.27.2009

BUNDLE UP BURTON

The ladies in my Bible Study wanted me to share my story of helping to keep our Grand Rapids kids warm last winter. But, as I'm currently on a mission to save the children by recruiting the best staff for SpringHill Camps, I had to make a quick video to share with the women of Mars Hill. Thanks for joining with me in this effort! Also, if you want to give coats, blankets and other winter gear, but don't go to Mars, I will happily pick them up from you! Let's keep all God's kids warm this winter!

(click on far right corner to make it full screen)

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